happy Valentine’s Day to all of you lovely people!!
it has been a hot minute since I’ve done a blog but I feel that this all needs to be expressed and brought to the surface today.
Often times(speaking for the single ladies & gents out there), this holiday is served as a reminder that you are “lonely” or still in the waiting. and this is okay!!! you’re feelings are valued.
This year, I have been hard on myself. I treat love like it has a time limit. I act like at 16 I’m supposed to have already met my soulmate. I act like it does not bother me at times but when push comes to shove, I want my happiness just like everyone does. I want to find my person. And I’m pretty impatient.
God hit me pretty hard today. Shined a light right on me and made me deal with my feelings I have been hiding. feelings of loneliness and frustration around this holiday. Questions of self worth.
So here’s a few tips I’ve come up with to maybe get you out of your holiday blues:
1. don’t settle: often times we all fall in love and we use phrases that end up hurting our mental state… like “if only I could have him I would be happy and never complain. It would be worth it. I would change for him. “ okay!!! No girl. God designed you for a reason… why would you change the beauty in yourself for a guy who does not understand the meaning of perfect love?
2. you cannot be happy mentally if you aren’t happy spiritually: God’s timing is always right. And I know.. trust me. I do have to say so myself he sets the clock for my love limit for a very long time. But do you ever think the reason you are trying so hard to be with that person (or different people every other day) is because you’re lost. you have no meaning and feel as if you aren’t worth being loved by the one who created everything. you must get your spiritual life in check before you can ever get happy permanently.
3. see the good: times of singleness can be extremely difficult. but the world should not be your idol. they should not determine your worth. others relationships shouldn’t determine the length of your singleness. See the good that is in front of you. We disguise the good with anxiety and impatience because we are used to running to it. Change your habits and be thankful for the time you have that you can use to grow with God. And mature in your faith.
Times are tough. I completely understand. But for me right now, I have to quit being hard on myself. I have to quit finding worth in the boys I like or love in relationships. because I will continue to feel empty every time.
God’s love is forever. Grow in him and watch your dreams become reality. you’re worth more than you think.
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